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a. Sets up the meeting room as needed for the meeting
b. Secures and maintains the meeting room, according to group conscience and facility guidelines
c. Runs any regularly scheduled business meetings
d. Acts as group’s liaison to the meeting facility
e. Passes on information to the new secretary at the end of their term
a. Is the link between the ACA group and ACA as a whole
b. Attends the local ACA Intergroup or Voting Entity service meetings
c Carries the group conscience to the local ACA Intergroup and then reports to the group on the outcomes
d. Notifies the group of any local or ACA updates, announcements, and flyers.
a. Makes sure that the phone/contact list is up to date
b. Makes sure that meeting members are aware of this list for outreach calls
c. Passes on information to the new phone list person at the end of their term
a. Gives (metal coins) chips to new members who show up for meetings
b. Passes on information to the new chip person at the end of their term
a. Puts ACA-endorsed literature out at the meeting
b. Keeps track pf group literature supplies and reorders as needed
c. Obtains funds from the group treasurer to restock literature
d. Passes on information to the new literature person at the end of their term
New Comer Greeter:
a. They great any new comers to the meeting
b. They show the new comer where to go
c. They answer questions of the new comer
d. Passes on information to the next new comer greeter at the end of their term
1. Bob and Jack arrive early before a meeting and start setting up meeting equipment. Bob knows that Jack is recently unemployed and having financial issues, because Jack shared this problem during previous meeting’s shares. Jack asks Bob for 20 Dollars to help pay for gas. Bob should not lend Jack the money because this will not help Jack with facing his financial problems and getting recovery. Also, if Jack doesn’t pay Bob back the 20 Dollars then there could be the issue of resentment. This could also impact the meeting as a whole.
2. Sally just joined her first ACA Group. She has been with the group a couple of weeks and Frank, an old-timer, is giving her inappropriate looks and making inappropriate comments regarding her choice in clothing. Sally doesn’t feel safe and is thinking about leaving the group because of this.
3. Meridith has been in ACA for two years and John has just joined the meeting. John puts his contact information on the meeting phone list. After the meeting, Meridith sees John’s contact information and decides to text John telling him that she is happy to see his progress and wants to “assist him” whenever he needs help. John texts back and politely declines. Meridith then calls John and asks the same thing. John gets concerned and tells Meridith again he does not want her help and asks her politely to not call him again. Meridith then emails John and apologies that she didn’t mean anything by it and asks again. John feels harassed and doesn’t know what to do and stops coming to meetings.
4. Suzy and Wendy have become fast friends at meetings. However, Suzy has been asking Wendy for favors and becoming emotionally needy with Wendy. This impacts Wendy’s life and emotional sobriety. Wendy likes Suzy, but Wendy does not want to come to meetings anymore because Suzy will be there and will emotionally lean on her.
1. Do not act alone when dealing with a 13th Stepper.
2. Two or more group members can ask the disruptive person to leave the meeting and return when he or she is willing to work on recovery. Ask the person to get a sponsor or consider getting a sponsor.
3. If the problem persists, ask the person to take a one or two week break from the meeting.
4. If the person is disruptive and will not leave the meeting, escort him or her from the meeting if the person is non-violent. Escorting is done by a group of meeting members instead of one member acting alone.
5. If the disruptive person becomes violent or threatening, shut down the meeting immediately and have all members depart for the common welfare.
6. Call the police if there is a clear and present danger to lives, health, or property.
Someone is not a 13th Stepper, but they are a disruptive influence at our meeting. What can we do about it?
Open Meeting: This type of meeting opens with the facilitator or a member of the group suggesting a specific topic, i.e., the Steps, setting boundaries, sponsorship, etc. The facilitator will usually begin the sharing.
Closed Meeting: This type of meeting is closed unless you are a specific gender or profession. For example, all women’s ACA Meetings are closed to men and vice versa. Some ACA Meetings are only for people who work in the health care or legal profession.
Regularly attending ACA meetings
Writing/journaling your feelings and experiences
Using the phone list to reach out to others
Sponsorship of new members
Daily prayer & meditation
Studying the ACA books and literature
Having fun, playing, & relaxing
Family of origin work
Using gentleness, humor, love, & respect with ourselves and others
ACA service work
Fellowship with other ACA Members
Physical Boundaries: They pertain to your personal space, privacy, and your body. Do you give a handshake or a hug – to whom and when?
Mental Boundaries: They apply to your thoughts, values, and opinions. Are you easily suggestible? Do you know what you believe, and can you hold onto your opinions? Can you listen with an open mind to someone else’s opinion without becoming rigid to that opinion?
Emotional Boundaries: They involve separating your emotions and responsibility for them from someone else’s. It’s like an imaginary line that separates you and others. Healthy Emotional Boundaries prevent you from giving advice, blaming or accepting blame. They protect you from feeling guilty for someone else’s negative feelings, problems and taking other people's comments personally.
Spiritual Boundaries: They relate to your beliefs and experiences in connection with God or a higher power.
Sexual Boundaries: They protect your comfort level with sexual touch and activity – what, where, when, and with whom.
Material Boundaries: They determine whether you give or lend things, such as your money, car, clothes, books, food, or toothbrush.
In our meetings, we speak about our own experience, and we listen without comment to what others share. We work toward taking responsibility for our own lives, rather than giving advice to others. This is why cross talk is strongly discouraged during our meetings. Cross-talk guidelines help keep our meetings a safe place.
Examples of cross-talk may include, but are not limited to:
Giving unsolicited feedback
Making “you” and “we” statements
Minimizing another person’s feeling or experiences
Body movements such as nodding one’s head or other gestures
Verbal sounds / noises
Referring to someone present by name
Controlling people are people who have to be in control of their environment, and who in particular like to control other people. These people have codependency issues meaning that they rely on their ability to control you in order to feel safe confident and secure, but in doing so they unfortunately end up often making you feel like you have lost your autonomy, making you lose your independence, making you feel under their thumb as well as ruining your self-esteem.
Signs of controlling behavior:
1. They start being overly attentive to you, but then they taper off their attentions.
2. They will try to isolate you from others.
3. They like to put you down.
4. They get frustrated with your questions.
5. They lie.
6. They will try to change you.
7. They like to criticize others.
8. They won’t take no for an answer.
9. They are jealous.